And when I think of just how much of a hot mess I am, it makes me uncomfortable. — “A human being is a being who is constantly ‘under construction,’ but also, in a parallel fashion, always in a state of constant destruction.” - Jose Saramago The other day, on TikTok, I came across a series of photos posted by a user, who shall remain nameless, explaining things she…

I hope I was of good service to you. — It started with hands. He laid his hands out on the table with his palms facing upward, indicating that I should lay my own on top. I was hesitant, an eczema flare-up had left dark scaly marks where there had once been smooth skin on mine, and I was insecure. …

Aka TikTok’s lackluster attempt at helping its Creators monetize their content — I opened my TikTok “Creator tools” menu, I believe, check to see how much I had received from TikTok’s Creator Fund. I scrolled to the bottom to find the menu button for it and discovered a new option selection below it. It read, “TikTok Series”, with a little icon with…

Why do women downplay their intelligence for the benefit of others? — Playing dumb is a skill. It takes effort to suppress the natural human desire to tote one’s success. Some like to show off as pompous braggarts, while others may prefer to do so silently with a Louis Vuitton wallet. …

I’m not your dog — I was out with a guy. It was my first real interracial dating experience. We were sitting side by side, and his arm was around my shoulders. For a while, I had been primarily keeping my hair braided underneath a scarf. …

I hate myself — How are you feeling today, my dear reader? Let’s do this; I’ll tell you how I’m feeling and then you’ll say how you’re feeling — how you’re really feeling. And I want you to do it aloud if possible. Ok, here goes. I hate myself. But not in that way. …

“….you ain’t gotta believe what I believe, but you gotta believe the results.” — The other night I was watching a sermon about finances on YouTube by Pastor Michael Todd. All of it was thought-provoking but there was one quote that stood out to me the most. The lead-up to this quote was an example of how money follows mastery in a certain craft…

Some content creator slander for the soul — I am overwhelmed. Genuinely I am suffocating, drowning really in self-help and start-up content. And I’m tired. That big, ugly, green jealousy monster is starting to grow in me. When I see these titles, “How I made $$$$ in just X amount of time on this platform that is focused…

It simply feels like objectification — Warning: This article contains minor spoilers. Last night I decided to hunker down and binge-watch Amazon’s new original show Swarm which was directed by Adamma Ebo and Donald Glover. I haven’t finished just yet, but I’m plowing my way through. I first heard about the show from an Instagram post…